Q: My husband and I have been married now for five years. We have two great little ones and both of us work pretty much full time. Do you have any advice on how to spice up the marriage since we rarely get our own time together anymore? Emily
A: I have an awesome exercise for you Emily. Simply type out the following questions and give them to your husband to answer. Best to either write down the responses or type them up so both of you can always go back to them when necessary. I recommend both of you complete the questions separately and then plan a date night to go over the responses face to face. The idea is to facilitate a healhty discussion on how to make improvements in your marriage. This is meant to be fun, positive and growth-oriented so both of you keep that in mind when the other is offering constructive, honest feedback. Enjoy the exercise, and feel free to email me with your experiences.
–List 3 things your partner can do even more to help you each week.
–List 5 random acts you would like to see more from your partner.
–What are the 3 things your partner does that turn you on the most emotionally?
–What are the 3 things your partner does that turn you on the most physically?
–What things would you like to see change or improve in the next few months?
–What can you and your partner do more of to “spice” up the relationship or to bring more romance into it?