Q: Help… I just found out my husband has a female work partner that is hot. I have been cheated on in all of my previous relationships so how do I deal with this without becoming a major jealous wife and ruining our marriage?
A: One thing that jumped out at me when I read your question—“I have been cheated on in all of my PREVIOUS relationships,” which indicates to me that your husband, himself, has NOT cheated on you in the past. Be absolutely careful not to project your past onto the man you chose to live the rest of your life with. I know it is easier said than done, but reconciling your past relationships so not to harm your current marriage is critical. Also, consider giving this situation another meaning—hot women giving your husband is a huge compliment. I can tell you personally, when I am walking through the mall with my own hot wife and I see men gawking at her, I smile inside and take it as a compliment.
The key piece to this whole dynamic is TRUST! Trusting your husband especially if he has never given you a reason not to is paramount. Like I tell everyone, “you get what you focus on in life!” Focus on what you love about your husband, focus on trusting him, focus on what is great about your marriage—do NOT focus on a woman at his work and what she might do.